Have you read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman?
Shawn and I read this even before we were married and my love languages are still the same, nearly 8 years later.
Here are the love languages: quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, & physical touch. Want to know what your primary one(s) is? Click here for the quiz.
Gifts is my top love language followed closely by a tie between quality time and acts of service. I took the quiz today just to make sure they hadn't changed.
Here's what the website says about gifts (because I feel awful admitting that's something that makes me feel really, really special and loved...to me a gift can be the gift of time, or a sticky note on the mirror, or a Snickers, or a card; Shawn would be in trouble if he spent $60 on flowers!...).
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous–so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Perhaps this is why Christmas stresses me out? I always have to find the "perfect" gift for someone else even if it's not their preferred love language.
So where am I going with this? I think love languages also spill over into our friendships. So when two sweet kindnesses graced my life during the last two weeks, I have to share about it!